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Alright, I had to delete a post ealier. Too offensive and I agree. So I will recap. On Sunday evening I had invited a couple over to have dinner and celebrate that my husband was home from a trip. My feelings get hurt very easily. They had eaten a big meal at 3pm and said said they werent hungry. Well, I went to a lot of trouble making a nice big meal. Meat and all, which for me is a big deal. I dont know how it tastes so I need encouragement. I dont think it is odd to be bothered that someone ate before they came over for a planned dinner. I am sure they didnt do it to be mean, but when someone invites you for dinner I think you should come hungry, certainly not come and explain how you are still full from lunch. We didnt even get to the dessert. Truly the dinner is enough to bother me and I think anyone would be offended if they had a planned nice dinner and the guests showed up exclaiming that they were full.
But I also shared with my friend that I was going to decorate the bathroom in our master bedroom. She didnt ask me any questions about it. That was a large undertaking. And when I showed it to her, very proud of myself, all she really said was, great deals at TJ Maxx huh? From a friend, or anyone for that matter, I think that if someone is showing off a big decorating undertaking ( bed linens to shower curtain and all in between) that you could gush. I would gush.
Do you know how sometimes you will remember that someone said that they were going to a doctors appoitment etc and you will ask them about it after it happens? Well, I do that. I will ask about how their appointments are going or wheither they got that new job etc. I care and I show that through asking questions.I dont feel I get that in return. There might not be anything worthy in my life to talk about. I suppose that really could be it.
So Mel- I am sorry I sounded so harsh in my earlier post. Those were my feelings without me thinking it through. If you wouldnt be hurt if J and I came over to your house for a special planned dinner and said we were full then you are a step ahead of me. You read Martha Stewart, you know the rules. Its my blog and I felt I could be candid. I know you read it but I didnt think about that when I posted that entry. I certainly didnt do it to be mean. I need to talk about things in my blog that bother me. You obviously feel the same way or you wouldnt have responded in the way you did on your blog.
I think that I expect too much. And I really do not mean that as a cut down. I look at you as a best friend in this time of my life. A friend that I will still be talking to in 30 years. But, I dont really feel comfortable sharing with you because you dont appear to be an open person. As you have stated. So do we need a woman's bonding retreat? I dont know. Perhaps so. Perhaps we should trade locks of hair and share our deepest secrets so to encourage a closer relationship.
You are definetly right that I am being way more emotional and sensitive now because of circumstances. I am having an incredibly hard time and I dont even talk to J about it. It isnt like me to write something so harsh without thinking it through. For that mistake, I hope you will forgive me.
Honestly, I think we do need a woman's retreat. Friends have fights and this is our first one. And thats ok. Shoot, it might not be the last. True friends are ones that you can fight with and then make up. If you are interested in trying to develop a closer friendship, think about the woman's retreat idea. It might do the trick.
But I also shared with my friend that I was going to decorate the bathroom in our master bedroom. She didnt ask me any questions about it. That was a large undertaking. And when I showed it to her, very proud of myself, all she really said was, great deals at TJ Maxx huh? From a friend, or anyone for that matter, I think that if someone is showing off a big decorating undertaking ( bed linens to shower curtain and all in between) that you could gush. I would gush.
Do you know how sometimes you will remember that someone said that they were going to a doctors appoitment etc and you will ask them about it after it happens? Well, I do that. I will ask about how their appointments are going or wheither they got that new job etc. I care and I show that through asking questions.I dont feel I get that in return. There might not be anything worthy in my life to talk about. I suppose that really could be it.
So Mel- I am sorry I sounded so harsh in my earlier post. Those were my feelings without me thinking it through. If you wouldnt be hurt if J and I came over to your house for a special planned dinner and said we were full then you are a step ahead of me. You read Martha Stewart, you know the rules. Its my blog and I felt I could be candid. I know you read it but I didnt think about that when I posted that entry. I certainly didnt do it to be mean. I need to talk about things in my blog that bother me. You obviously feel the same way or you wouldnt have responded in the way you did on your blog.
I think that I expect too much. And I really do not mean that as a cut down. I look at you as a best friend in this time of my life. A friend that I will still be talking to in 30 years. But, I dont really feel comfortable sharing with you because you dont appear to be an open person. As you have stated. So do we need a woman's bonding retreat? I dont know. Perhaps so. Perhaps we should trade locks of hair and share our deepest secrets so to encourage a closer relationship.
You are definetly right that I am being way more emotional and sensitive now because of circumstances. I am having an incredibly hard time and I dont even talk to J about it. It isnt like me to write something so harsh without thinking it through. For that mistake, I hope you will forgive me.
Honestly, I think we do need a woman's retreat. Friends have fights and this is our first one. And thats ok. Shoot, it might not be the last. True friends are ones that you can fight with and then make up. If you are interested in trying to develop a closer friendship, think about the woman's retreat idea. It might do the trick.
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